Common Ground
March 12, 2006

So, I said I was going to get all serious and stuff.

After watching the movie Jim in Bold at my churchthis past Friday night, and, after talking with various folks online and at church, I thought I would share more of my story with my readers than I have before. Imagine my surprise, after already coming to this decision to see as the meditation for the morning in our church bulletin the following words:

Everyone of us has a story, a sacred story �. People do have religious experiences in the heart of ordinary life �."
From Windsong

Now this is not, actually, going to be some weird religious post, so don't read into those previous sentences that I'm gonna preach to anyone or try to convert anyone. That couldn't be further from the truth. To be honest, I have a tendency to close a blog, website or book that starts preaching to me when I didn't purposefully go out seeking something about religion or beliefs. It just so happens that church is where I saw the movie and then got smacked with that quote.

K � 'nuff said.

I do think, though, that it's pretty obvious that we all have a story. There's a reason, there's a multitude of reasons that we think and believe and act the way that we do. And, so many of us feel so alone in our experiences. We hear, time and time again, about people who didn't know there was truly any other way of life than her husband beating her � or the husband who truly thought that wives were supposed to nag and work the man near to death � or the kid who thought that all moms were drunk � or that all dads were crackhead thieves. We've all run into times when we feel like our boss is the worst ever and there's no way we'll be able to get another career or job or that � even worse that there's really nothing better out there.

And yet, the more people share their stories honestly, the more we wind up connecting to each other and learning that one, we're NOT alone. That our experiences may not be exactly the same, our situations might, in fact, be quite different � but there's still this sense of connection and familiarity that we find tying us all together instead of separating us.

In the movie, Jim in Bold, we hear about a young man who simply can no longer find a way to balance the way he is and the way those around him see him. He kills himself despite the honest and earnest help that his family and friends try to give him. Further along in the movie we hear a young man talking about how he felt like he was in the middle of the ocean and all he wanted to do was to swim to shore, to solid ground. But, since the ocean was all around him, he was unsure which way the shore was � picking a direction to swim might very well mean that he was actually swimming further out to sea and further away from land beneath his feet. And so, he just kind of treaded water, stayed in place, afraid that any direction would be the wrong direction.

It's so very easy for us to do that.

So, while the experiences that I discuss over the next few posts may not be something you've experienced directly, there's a good chance that we can connect on some level through what we've learned or felt from other experiences.

Because even in our differences, we're more alike than we think. My hope is that as I share with you, you'll respond in the comments not with argument, but with bits of your own story. Sure, there's going to be plenty to argue with � I'm as opinionated as the next person, and if you disagree, that's fine. But I think even in our arguments we're going to find some similarities and some common ground on which to stand.

And maybe our conversations will help someone pick a direction and find their own ground on which to stand.

Posted by Red Monkey at March 12, 2006 3:31 PM | Struggles | | StumbleUpon Toolbar Stumble |


Jenn said:

Just wanted to stop by and say thanks for checking out Quarter Rest - and then I read this! Sounds like a most thought-provoking film and I'll definitely be back to see how this all evolves.

March 12, 2006 5:02 PM


charles ravndal said:

Hello Ender!!!1 Glad to see you as well in BM. I havent seen you for quite some time you know.

March 13, 2006 3:21 AM
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