Happy New Year
January 1, 2007

"Suicide is not chosen; it happens when pain exceeds resources for coping with pain."

I have never seen a statement more true than that. And I'm not referring to myself, don't worry.

But a very dear friend just found himself in that situation. Where he was trying so hard to avoid the coping mechanisms that he'd developed over the years which weren't so great, that he found himself in the position where he was simply out of coping mechanisms and didn't know where to turn or what to do.

In a similar situation? Try here.

I know the holidays -- whichever ones you celebrate -- can be hard for everyone. Please ... if you are having a difficult time, there are people who are ready to listen ... to be with you.

If you are prone to bad times, reach out. As difficult as that can be ... and dear gods above, below and in between, I do know how hard that can be ... but please, as difficult as it can be ... reach out. There are people who will listen. There are people who do care (and I know you know that and likely don't need the extra guilt).

For me, before I even knew the whole story yesterday morning, just hearing that a friend was hurt and in hospital, I went walking in the state park for two hours over the advanced rugged trail, as fast as I could go.

For you, hopefully, it is talking to someone. Reaching out. Not letting yourself be isolated.

Because no matter what we think, we are ALL interconnected. No matter the culture, the country, the life ... we are far more connected than we think.

Reach out. Talk.



Posted by Red Monkey at January 1, 2007 7:37 AM | Struggles | | StumbleUpon Toolbar Stumble |


jodi said:

Aww endy....((((ender))))

January 1, 2007 7:44 AM


Sue said:

I think this is what can make the internet such a powerful tool. We need never really be alone. Excellent message Ender, and you never know whose course of action in life might be changed by reading this. Cheers for the new year.

January 1, 2007 9:17 AM

Happy New Year Ender!!


January 1, 2007 10:52 AM


MsDemmie said:

Excellent message

Happy new year to you and yours

January 1, 2007 10:59 AM


red said:

(((endy)) great post.

January 1, 2007 2:48 PM


Templar said:

Happy New Year my friend...sorry I haven't been around much of late.

January 1, 2007 4:32 PM


Anthony said:

Thanks for your thoughts. I found my blog as my place to talk... Fortunately, I've been doing a lot better the last week or so...

Journey Through Divorce

January 1, 2007 10:24 PM


candoor said:

without the time for playing on the net that I used to have, I miss so many people... and so I came here to say Happy New Year to you cuz you are one... your spirit, your heart, your imprint in my mind remains beautiful and so positive, it still shines (like the batteries are real good :)

hope your life is full of smiles this year :)

January 2, 2007 4:06 AM


Smash said:

Makes perfect sense, dear. Hope 2007 sees you well and happy. Smashxxx

January 2, 2007 6:20 PM
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