WTF is WRONG with People?
December 10, 2007

So here's the deal:

I'm pissed off. Like seriously pissed off.

I have a friend who has not had the world's easiest life. Dealt a crap hand in terms of parents. Neighbors who knew and did nothing. Left home before finishing high school ... and yet still finished high school. Had to work to support herself. Did so. Did good, valuable and helpful work ... but day care teachers don't make a whole lot. If I'm remembering correctly, she was working two jobs when we met. A nursery school during the day and a drop-in day care in the evenings.

This is someone I admire a hell of a lot. She kept trying to pull ahead to do everything she needed to do to take care of herself and be independent. Took classes at the junior college as she could afford it.

But when I say dealt a crap hand in terms of parents ... I kind of understated that. A LOT. Which created some issues. Which to be perfectly honest, she tried her best to deal with. And she was doing the work that needed to be done. But, as they say, shit happens. Better described, various health problems happened.

And, despite there being real health issues, the doctors apparently decided she was just another hysterical female. The blew off things that they should have pursued. Hospital stays finally cost her her jobs. And the shit continued to happen. And she continued fighting and trying to do everything possible to stay independent and together.

Finally, she was getting dizzy and falling. Back issues. The docs kept putting things off. She wasn't a priority. She could wait.

She tripped in her living room and fell. Not down a flight of stairs or anything. Just fell.

Blew out three vertebrae. Paralyzed. Stuck in a nursing home.

Now to be perfectly honest, I'm pissed off enough about all of that. I wanna holler that little kid plea, "It's not fair!" And it's not fair, but it's life. That's the way this shit goes, I guess.

But what has me really hot now is that she's dependent on the nursing home. Despite all these years of trying to make sure she stayed independent. And they are NOT taking care of her; they're making it as difficult as possible for her to do much of anything.

And the last straw for me is this:
She was using a transfer board to get from her bed to her wheelchair. Fell. Broke her tibia.

I found out last night that the doctors didn't even bother to set the leg. It's still swollen. She may be in a wheelchair, but she's paralyzed - and still has feeling in her legs - and the leg still freaking hurts. They put a short boot on her and called it done. Last night a nurse told her the only way to set the leg was through surgery ... and with a pulmonary embolism, dead spots on the lungs ... surgery is not really an option.

But I just can't believe that this is the best care. I just can't believe that just putting a short boot on someone and calling it good enough is standard care in this situation.

I'm tired of people treating people like crap. Why can't they just do their damn jobs? If you're in a profession to HELP people, then freaking HELP THEM. What the hell is with this ignoring them or thinking that crappy care is "good enough" for those people? I mean really. Why do people have to be like that? It's not that hard to do what's right, especially when it's your job. Why do so many people have to take this "easy" out of just being lazy?

WTF is wrong with people anyway?

Posted by Red Monkey at December 10, 2007 9:58 PM | Never Underestimate the Power of Human Stupidity | Struggles | | StumbleUpon Toolbar Stumble |


Pand0raWilde said:

If you were in my state I'd be calling the state Ombudsman in charge of nursing home care. That person would hear a story like this and start doing surprise inspections, and naming your friend would make sure that her care got microscopic attention.

Each state should have something similar. Hope the info helps.

December 10, 2007 11:37 PM


blueyes said:

Sadly this is the state of nursing homes and it should not. Whomever has power of attorney over her affairs needs to be raising holey bloody hell and probably should be looking into the other tenants of said nursing home too becaue I'm willing to bet there are other unfortunate incidents as well. Nothing will get done until people bring it to light and some people just dont give a rats ass about the people they let waste away in those places and it is sad.

December 11, 2007 1:07 PM


Joe said:

Total friggin' BS. That sucks in a big way! I think the wrong people are getting into health care nowadays since there are so many vacancies and people want the cashola and really have little or no empathy most of the time for their patients. Blows...people suck.

December 12, 2007 9:36 AM


Antman said:

It is unfortunate that some people just don't have good luck, but when folks just fail someone that is just unacceptable. You're a good friend!


December 12, 2007 2:40 PM


MsDemmie said:

Get legal advice take action - rattle sabres - they should not be allowed to get away with this - sue and sue again.

December 12, 2007 8:01 PM


Christine said:

May I suggest a great book... for you... and if you like, pass it on...

WAKING by Matthew Sanford.

I can't recommend it highly enough!!!!!!!!!

December 19, 2007 12:45 AM
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